Do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.”
Harold S. Kushner
“You can accomplish by kindness what you cannot by force.”
Listen. I get it. Ruminating is your super power. STOP PICKING AT IT. Let it be. If you can’t DO something about it, you cannot mind meld it into changing. Stop picking at it. Your mental health depends on it.
Kindness melts the coldest of hearts. Be kind.
Everyone is in the middle of massive change. Be kind
In the last few years, we’ve talked a lot about what we DON’T want. It’s time to turn out attention to what we want. What is your dream? What would you like to see happen in your life and the world? Then climb every mountain until you find your dream.
No matter where you live, make sure to get at least 20 minutes of direct sunlight. We were meant to be in the air and sun. Be kind to you.
It’s time to laugh more. Play more. Enjoy your life. While you’re at it, be kind.
Start every day with kindness and you will live a kind life.
Do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.”
“One should not wish anyone disagreeable conditions of life; but for him who is involved in them by chance, they are touchstones of characters and of the most decisive value to man.”
“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.”
Kurt Vonnegut, Mother Night
“The only cure [for envy] in the case of ordinary men and women is happiness, and the difficulty is that envy is itself a terrible obstacle to happiness.”
Bertrand Russell, The Conquest of Happiness
“It is in sickness that we are compelled to recognise that we do not live alone but are chained to a being from a different realm, from whom we are worlds apart, who has no knowledge of us and by whom it is impossible to make ourselves understood: our body.”
Marcel Proust, The Guermantes Way
“There should be at least a room, or some corner where no one will find you and disturb you or notice you. You should be able to untether yourself from the world and set yourself free, loosing all the fine strings and strands of tension that bind you, by sight, by sound, by thought, to the presence of other men….
“Once you have found such a place, be content with it, and do not be disturbed if a good reason takes you out of it. Love it, and return to it as soon as you can, and do not be too quick to change it for another.”
Thomas Merton, New Seeds of Contemplation
“But if a man has commonly a very clear and happy daily life then I think we are justified in asking that he shall not make mountains out of molehills. I do not deny that molehills can sometimes be important. Small annoyances have this evil about them, that they can be more abrupt because they are more invisible; they cast no shadow before, they have no atmosphere….But when all this is allowed for, I repeat that we may ask a happy man…to put up with pure inconveniences, and even make them part of his happiness. Of positive pain or positive poverty I do not here speak. I speak of those innumerable accidental limitations that are always falling across our path – bad weather, confinement to this or that house or room, failure of appointments or arrangements…”
G.K. Chesterton, “The Advantages of Having One Leg.”
“At such moments I don’t think about all the misery, but about the beauty that still remains. This is where Mother and I differ greatly. Her advice in the face of melancholy is: ‘Think about all the suffering in the world and be thankful you’re not part of it.’ My advice is: ‘Go outside, to the country, enjoy the sun and all nature has to offer. Go outside and try to recapture the happiness within yourself; think of all the beauty in yourself and in everything around you and be happy.’
“I don’t think Mother’s advice can be right, because what are you supposed to do if you become part of the suffering? You’d be completely lost. On the contrary, beauty remains, even in misfortune. If you just look for it, you discover more and more happiness and regain your balance. A person who’s happy will make others happy; a person who has courage and faith will never die in misery!”
Anne Frank, The Diary of Anne Frank, March 6, 1944
“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
“And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”
“The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see in truth that you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”
“The first recipe for happiness is: avoid too lengthy meditation on the past.”
“Learn to let go. That is the key to happiness.”
“Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.”
“Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.”
Marquis de Condorcet
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
“Success means doing the best we can with what we have. Success is the doing, not the getting; in the trying, not the triumph. Success is a personal standard, reaching for the highest that is in us, becoming all that we can be.”
“You’ve got to get up every morning with determination if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction.”
“Success is simple. Do what’s right, the right way, at the right time.”
Arnold H. Glasgow
“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
“Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.”
Orison Swett Marden
“Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.”
”Spend eighty percent of your time focusing on the opportunities of tomorrow rather than the problems of yesterday.”
“Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.”
“Keep on going, and the chances are that you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I never heard of anyone ever stumbling on something sitting down.”
Charles F. Kettering
“Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time.”
George Bernard Shaw
“The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes.”
“Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.”
“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.”
“Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life. Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism.”
David M. Burns
“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”
“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”
Mark Victor Hansen
“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
“Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.”
“For success, attitude is equally as important as ability.”
Harry F. Banks
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”
“People who succeed have momentum. The more they succeed, the more they want to succeed, and the more they find a way to succeed. Similarly, when someone is failing, the tendency is to get on a downward spiral that can even become a self-fulfilling prophecy.”
“After every difficulty, ask yourself two questions: “What did I do right?” and “What would I do differently?”
“Try not to become a person of success, but rather try to become a person of value.”
“Nothing in the world can take the place of perseverance. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost legendary. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Perseverance and determination alone are omnipotent.”
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”
“The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost.”
Gilbert K. Chesterton
“If I know what love is, it is because of you.”
“The best way to succeed in this world is to act on the advice you give to others.”
A Soldier’s Christmas
The Night Before Christmas
T’was the night before Christmas, he lived all alone in a one bedroom house, made of plaster and stone.
I had come down the chimney with presents to give, and to see just who in this home did live.
I looked all about, a strange sight I did see: no tinsel, no presents, not even a tree.
No stocking by the mantle, just boots filled with sand; on the wall hung pictures of far distant lands.
With medals and badges, awards of all kinds, a sober thought came through my mind.
For this house was different, it was dark and dreary. I found the home of a soldier, at once I could see clearly.
The soldier lay sleeping; silent, alone, curled up on the floor, in this one bedroom home. Not how I pictured a US soldier.
Was this the hero of whom I’d just read, curled up on a poncho, the floor for a bed?
I realized the families that I saw this night, owed their lives to these soldiers who were willing to fight.
Soon ’round the world, the children would play and grownups would celebrate a bright Christmas Day.
They all enjoyed freedom, each month of the year, because of the soldiers like the one lying here.
I couldn’t help wonder how many lay alone on a cold Christmas Eve in a land far from home.
The very thought brought a tear to my eye; I dropped to my knees and started to cry.
The soldier awakened and I heard a rough voice, “Santa, don’t cry. This life is my choice.
I fight for freedom, I don’t ask for more; my life is my God, my country, my corps.”
The soldier rolled over and drifted to sleep; I couldn’t control it, I continued to weep.
I kept watch for hours, so silent and still, and we both shivered from the cold night’s chill.
I didn’t want to leave on that cold, dark night, this guardian of honor, so willing to fight.
Then the soldier rolled over, with a voice soft and pure, whispered, “Carry on Santa, it’s Christmas Day, all is secure.”
One look at my watch and I knew he was right, “Merry Christmas my friend, and to all a good night.”
Author: A peace keeping soldier stationed overseas
“It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.”
“When we are in love we seem to ourselves quite different from what we were before.”
“If I had a flower for every time I thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.”
“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.”
“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”
“Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’”
“True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.”
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
Robert A. Heinlein
“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.”
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
“To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love and be loved, that’s everything.”
“A woman knows the face of the man she loves as a sailor knows the open sea.”
Honore de Balzac
“’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
Alfred Lord Tennyson
“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.”
“Every person has to love at least one bad partner in their lives to be truly thankful for the right one.”
“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.”
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.”
“And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make.”
“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
A. A. Milne
“Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.”
“Tough times never last, but tough people do.”
Robert H. Schuller
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing.”
George Bernard Shaw
“You can’t really be strong until you can see a funny side to things.”
“Life is very interesting. In the end, some of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths.”
“A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.”
“In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.”
“It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more ‘manhood’ to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.”
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
“Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.”
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
“Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.”
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
Harriet Beecher Stowe
“The greatest test of courage on the earth is to bear defeat without losing heart.”
R. G. Ingersoll
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
“You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.”
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly.
So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.”
“Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being.”
“When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
“If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again.”
“Most great people have attained their greatest success one step beyond their greatest failure.”
“We can easily manage if we will only take, each day, the burden appointed to it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over again today, and then add the burden of the morrow before we are required to bear it.”
“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”
Mary Anne Radmacher
The Best Inspirational Sayings and Quotes on Loving Yourself
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. ”
M. Scott Peck
“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.”
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
“I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent. They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.”
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
Diane Von Furstenberg
“People who want the most approval get the least and the people who need approval the least get the most.”
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”
“Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.”
“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.”
Shannon L. Alder
“Did your mom ever tell you, ‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything’? She was right–and talking nicely also applies when you’re talking to yourself, even inside your head.”
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
Louise L. Hay
“People may flatter themselves just as much by thinking that their faults are always present to other people’s minds, as if they believe that the world is always contemplating their individual charms and virtues.”
“Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions … Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.”