“No human face is exactly the same in its lines on each side, no leaf perfect in its lobes, no branch in its symmetry. All admit irregularity as they imply change; and to banish imperfection is to destroy expression, to check exertion, to paralyze vitality. All things are literally better, lovelier, and more beloved for the imperfections which have been divinely appointed, that the law of human life may be Effort, and the law of human judgment, Mercy.”
It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.
To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.
Joseph Chilton Pearce
If it’s not your story to tell, you don’t tell it.
Everything you’ve always wanted is on the other side of fear.
Because in the end, you won’t remember the time you spent working in the office or mowing your lawn. Climb that goddamn mountain.
Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them.
I’ve endured the worst times of life alone. I don’t need anyone. If you’re in my life, it’s because I value you and want you there.
My life is constantly under construction. There’s always something to improve.
Be thankful for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow.
It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you, if you allow it.
Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.
How to be successful: focus on your own shit.
Only someone who is well-prepared has the opportunity to improvise.
director and screenwriter
“What so great happiness as to be beloved, and to know that we deserve to be beloved? What so great misery as to be hated, and to know that we deserve to be hated?”
Adam Smith, The Theory of Moral Sentiments
“When you say “yes” to others, make sure you aren’t saying “no” to yourself.”
You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.
An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means that it’s going to launch you into something great. So just focus, and keep aiming.
Everything happens for a reason. Maybe you don’t see the reason right now, but when it is finally revealed it will blow you away.
You don’t get into something to test the waters, you go into things to make waves.
The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are. The second greater is being happy with what you find.
The strongest actions for a woman is to love herself, be herself and shine amongst those who never believed she could.
As the test pilot climbs out of the experimental aircraft, having torn off the wings and tail in the crash landing, the crash truck arrives, the rescuer sees a bloodied pilot and asks, “What happened?” The pilot’s reply: “I don’t know, I just got here myself!”
– Attributed to Lockheed test pilot Ray Crandell
“Try to stay in the middle of the air. Do not go near the edges of it. The edges of the air can be recognized by the appearance of ground, buildings, sea, trees and interstellar space. It is much more difficult to fly there.”
– Basic flight rules
“The Piper Cub is the safest airplane in the world; it can just barely kill you.”
– Attributed to Northrop Aviation test pilot Max Stanley
“When a prang (crash) seems inevitable, endeavor to strike the softest, cheapest object in the vicinity as slow and gently as possible.”
– Advice given to RAF pilots during WWII
“If something hasn’t broken on your helicopter, it’s about to.”
“If the wings are traveling faster than the fuselage, it’s probably a helicopter — and therefore, unsafe.”
“The only time you have too much fuel is when you’re on fire.”
“Never fly in the same cockpit with someone braver than you.”
“Flying the airplane is more important than radioing your plight to a person on the ground incapable of understanding or doing anything about it.”
“Though I Fly Through the Valley of Death … I Shall Fear No Evil. For I am at 80,000 Feet and Climbing.”
– At the entrance to the old SR-71 operating base, Kadena, Japan
“You’ve never been lost until you’ve been lost at Mach 3.”
– Test pilot Paul F. Crickmore
“What is the similarity between air traffic controllers and pilots? If a pilot screws up, the pilot dies; If ATC screws up, the pilot dies.”
“When one engine fails on a twin-engine airplane you always have enough power left to get you to the scene of the crash.”
The three most common expressions (or famous last words) in aviation are: “Why is it doing that?” “Where are we?” and “Oh Shit!”
“Blue water Navy truism: There are more planes in the ocean than submarines in the sky.”
– From an old carrier sailor
“Never trade luck for skill.”
“Just remember, if you crash because of weather, your funeral will be held on a sunny day.”
“There is no reason to fly through a thunderstorm in peacetime.”
– Sign over squadron ops desk at Davis-Monthan AFB, Ariz.
It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.
It is wiser to find out than suppose.
My definition of stupid is wasting your opportunity to be yourself because I think everybody has a uniqueness and everybody’s good at something.
I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who had practiced one kick 10,000 times.
Focus on what you want your life to look like–not just your body.
Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.
I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception.
Nothing can substitute experience.
In the end,
you have to be your own hero, because everyone is busy trying to save themselves.
My goal is to create a life I don’t need a vacation from.
When driving in a School Zone, I spend more time checking my speedometer than checking if I’ve run over any kids.
Arguing with my wife is great, I get to sleep on the couch and stay up late playing video games.
I wonder if I have a remarkable talent for something, but have never tried that one thing.
There should be a Shazam for bird noises to identify the bird.
My iPhone needs to be on charge so often, it may as well be a landline.
Somebody had to pitch the slogan “Pizza pizza” to a room full of suits.
Bartenders in older movies are always obsessively polishing a glass and never stocking ice or beer.
Saying “F*ck it” actually motivates me more than “You can do this”.
I think we have to get rid of the idea that protest will bring about change. We need to do visionary organizing.
Grace Lee Boggs
Technology is a useful servant but a dangerous master.
Christian Lous Lange
It’s a bizarre but wonderful feeling, to arrive dead center of a target you didn’t even know you were aiming for.
Lois McMaster Bujold
Education … is a process of living and not a preparation for future living.
psychologist and educational reformer
Anyone can hold the helm when the sea is calm.
“Between what a man calls me and what he simply calls mine the line is difficult to draw. We feel and act about certain things that are ours very much as we feel and act about ourselves.”
William James, The Principles of Psychology
“Silence was the cure, if only temporarily, silence and geography. But of what was I being cured? I do not know, have never known. I only know the cure. Silence, and no connections except to landscape.”
Mary Cantwell, Manhattan, When I Was Young
“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.”
“First forget inspiration. Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you whether you’re inspired or not. Habit will help you finish and polish your stories. Inspiration won’t. Habit is persistence in practice.”
Octavia E. Butler, author and winner of the MacArthur “Genius Grant”
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
Will Durant, winner of the Pulitzer Prize and the Presidential Medal of Freedom
“Habits gradually change the face of one’s life as time changes one’s physical face; and one does not know it.”
Virginia Woolf, English writer and modernist
“Life is habit. Or rather life is a succession of habits.”
Samuel Beckett, winner of the 1969 Nobel Prize in Literature
Criticism is so often nothing more than the eye garrulously denouncing the shape of the peephole that gives access to hidden treasure.
writer and artist
The art challenges the technology, and the technology inspires the art.
The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds, and the pessimist fears this is true.
James Branch Cabell,
“Records can be a bad trip. The audience can play your mistakes over and over. In a television special they see you once and you work hard to make sure they’re seeing you at your best.”
Mama Cass Elliot, The Argus
Fortify yourself with contentment, for this is an impregnable fortress.
Epictetus, 55 AD- 135 AD
You cannot depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.
Mark Twain, 1835-1910
I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past.
Patrick Henry, 1736-1799
“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”
Ralph G. Nichols
“Low key change helps the human mind circumnavigate the fear that blocks success and creativity.”
“A stumble may prevent a fall.”
The faster we live, the less emotion is left in the world. The slower we live, the deeper we feel the world around us.
Beauty gets attention, but personality gets the heart.
“Would all, who cherish such wild wishes, but look around them, they would oftenest find their sphere of duty, of prosperity, and happiness, within those precincts, and in that station where Providence itself has cast their lot. Happy they who read the riddle without a weary world-search, or a lifetime spent in vain!”
“There are jobs, there are chores, and there is work.”
Donald Hall, Life Work
Jonathan Haidt writes that his old friend Greg called him. Greg’s wife Amy had left him for another man, a psychopath, and taken with her the couple’s two young daughters. Eventually the couple divorced, and Greg got custody, but his whole life was overturned. Haidt writes:
“And then Greg said something so powerful that I choked up. Referring to the often sad and moving solo that is at the heart of many operas, he said: ‘This is my moment to sing that aria. I don’t want to, I don’t want to have this chance, but it’s here now, and what am I going to do about it? Am I going to rise to the occasion?’”
Jonathan Haidt, The Happiness Hypothesis
“When asked, “What disturbs him now about himself?” E. B. White answered, ‘I am bothered chiefly by my little fears that are the same as they were almost 70 years ago. I was born scared and am still scared. This has sometimes tested my courage almost beyond endurance.’”
E.B. White, quoted in “Notes and Comment by Author,” by Israel Shenker, New York Times, July 11, 1969
“No money is better spent than what is laid out for domestic satisfaction.”
Samuel Johnson, James Boswell, The Life of Samuel Johnson
Go and love someone exactly as they are. And then watch how quickly they transform into the greatest, truest version of themselves. When one feels seen and appreciated in their own essence, one is instantly empowered.
Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self.
Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.
Never give upon something you can’t go a day without thinking about.
It’s going to be hard but hard is not impossible.
Life is too short to start your day with broken pieces of yesterday, it will definitely destroy your wonderful today and ruin great tomorrow.
As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.