Tag: Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

Quotes February 22, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Not all of the depression that people experience is an illness… Unlike clinical depression, congruent depression is actually appropriate to your situation.”
Dr. K
“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
Louise L. Hay
“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.”
Kahlil Gibran
“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.”
Mandy Hale
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”
J.K. Rowling
“I don’t always make the best choices, but today I choose compassion over intolerance, sympathy over hatred, and love over fear.”
LJ Vanier
“The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal.”
Astrid Alauda
“A meaningful life is not being rich, being popular, or being perfect. It’s about being real, being humble, being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others.”
“When you bring peace to your past, you can move forward to your future.”

Quotes February 07, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“What should young people do with their lives today? Many things, obviously. But the most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured.”
Kurt Vonnegut
“You just never know what someone is dealing with behind closed doors. No matter how happy someone looks, how loud their laugh is, how big their smile is, there can still be a level of hurt that is indescribable. So be kind. Even when others are not, choose to be kind.”
Andrea Russett
“The song is ended, but the melody lingers on.”
Irving Berlin
“Without a doubt, the most important thing to remember is that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed and stressed out. It’s okay to feel lost and unsure. It’s alright to have no idea how you’re going to hold it together sometimes. We put so much pressure on ourselves to be happy all the time. It’s okay to acknowledge when times are tough. It’s alright to feel anxious, even if it’s uncomfortable.”
Ilene S. Cohen
”When you observe your thoughts, you’re able to choose which to believe and which to let pass. You can choose not to believe that someone else meant to hurt you, that you did something wrong, or you deserve to be judged. You can see these thoughts as nothing more than knee-jerk reactions to a perceived offense, and not reflections of reality or ideas you need to let influence your state of mind.”
Kimberly Diaz-Rosso
“When you feel like running or fleeing, it’s time to face your fear with courage. Although our automatic response is often to run away, numb our feelings, or somehow distract ourselves, escaping only temporarily relieves anxiety. Fear will return, possibly in a different form, until you choose to confront it with kindness.”
Carly Hamilton-Jones
“No matter how close to home anxiety hits, there is always a lie hiding in it somewhere. Maybe it’s based on a false belief. Maybe the problem doesn’t have to be dealt with as immediately as it feels. Maybe there are options we haven’t considered. But anxiety always—always—contains a lie. It might be big and in-our-face, or it could be small, tricky, and subtle. Look hard enough and we will uncover it… Finding the lie takes the teeth out of the anxiety.”
Jason Large
“Instead of stuffing down your depression, anxiety, shame, loneliness—or whatever emotion you’re tempted to resist—ask yourself: What message is it trying to send to me? What would I do differently in my life if I listened to this emotion instead of suppressing it?”
Kelly Martin
“‘I need to be doing something right now.’ This is an incredibly subtle belief that most of us don’t even realize we are holding onto. It stems from our obsession with productivity and achievement, and it manifests as a constant, itching discontent. Though our ego tricks us into believing we need this feeling to get things done, when we can let it go, we see a lot of our anxiety dissolves and our relaxation deepens. We’re also much more likely to enjoy what we need to do without the constant internal pressure of feeling that what we’re doing in this moment is never enough.”
Benjamin Fishel
“When we draw conclusions about a situation without checking the facts first, we can escalate it into a full-blown crisis in our minds. In other words, our negative thinking can spiral out of control, rapidly increasing our anxiety, unnecessarily. That’s called globalizing. How we think about our circumstances can make all the difference in the level of stress we feel.”
Paula Jones
“Eventually, it passes. It always does. We are left feeling drained or numb or depressed or ashamed. I tend to get angry… We recover, though, and that’s exactly why people who have panic attacks are warriors. We fight battles every day. We know the nature of The Beast. We don’t always know when he’ll strike, but we know that we will survive whatever he throws at us. We’ve faced death in our own way, and it hasn’t beaten us yet. We survived the last panic attack, and we’ll survive the next one. We have no choice.”
Haley West
“Our primal brain is wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain; and anxiety is often caused by worrying about the potential pain that we might feel in the future. Sometimes we’re so afraid of emotional pain and loss that we forget that they can’t physically harm us. And this is where the saying ‘make peace with discomfort’ will serve you very well, because your ability to be uncomfortable is directly related to your ability to be a relaxed person. Sometimes we assume that we need to be comfortable in order to be relaxed. But sometimes being relaxed simply means feeling uncomfortable and being okay with that. The more discomfort you’re able to tolerate, the less you’ll worry about preventing it from happening.”
Kari Dahlgren
“In the middle of uncertainty-induced anxiety, our vision narrows, literally and metaphorically. Fight-or-flight takes over and our vision literally focuses sharply while our brain diverts resources to survival, leaving no energy for creative problem-solving. So, relax. Know that this is what is happening and remind yourself that there are options that you can’t possibly see right now. Just because you don’t see them doesn’t mean they aren’t there. Acknowledge that there is a whole lot that you don’t know that you don’t know—and that some of those unknown, currently unforeseeable options will make you very, very happy.”
Dr. Amy Johnson
“Always concentrate on how far you’ve come, rather than how far you have left to go.”
“I am doing the best I can, and I am enough.”

Quotes January 28, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Confidence isn’t ‘they will like me.’ Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.”
Christina Grimmie
“Remember that not getting what you want Is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”
Dalai Lama
“How brave the moon shines in her skin; outnumbered by the stars.”
Angie Welland-Crosby
“It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.”
Doe Zantamata
“Make the most of yourself… for that is all there is of you.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Sometimes the only closure you need is the understanding that you deserve better.”
Trent Shelton
“Awareness is the greatest agent for change.”
“Nonresistance is the key to the greatest power in the universe.”
Eckhart Tolle
“I understand the life around me better, not from love, which everyone acknowledges to be a great teacher, but from estrangement, to which nobody has attributed the power of reinforcing insight.”
Nirad C. Chaudhuri
“Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.”
Jackson Kiddard
“About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all.”
Rita Mae Brown
“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.”
Jean-Paul Sartre
“Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens, and response is something we can choose.”
Maureen Killoran
“First you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you.”
F. Scott Fitzgerald
“One in six men will be sexually assaulted at some point in their life. It doesn’t make us weak or less masculine—nor should it. Rather, we, as men, should encourage other men to speak up, to be courageous, share this burden with others, and to attend therapy and take medication. There is such a thing as healthy masculinity, and we can find that in our fellow men, in comforting those who are having a rough time. Seeking help in a healthy way, wanting to be better, practicing empathy and compassion and caring for each other are ways of practicing healthy masculinity.”

Quotes January 07, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything—anger, anxiety, or possessions—we cannot be free.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
“The power of now can only be realized now. It requires no time and effort. Effort means you’re trying hard to get somewhere and so you are not present, welcoming this moment as it is.”
Eckhart Tolle
“Deep grief sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope.”
Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”
Roy T. Bennett
“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.”
Albert Einstein
“You can’t force anyone to value, respect, understand, or support you, but you can choose to spend your time around people who do.”
Lori Deschene
“Sometimes the worst things that happen to us put us in alignment with the best things that have happened to us.”

Quotes December 27, 2020

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Difficulties in your life do not come to destroy you, but to help you realise your hidden potential and power, let difficulties know that you too are difficult.”
Abdul Kalam
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.”
Marcus Aurelius
“No valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living in the now.”
Alan Watts
“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.”
“I think it’s brave that you get up in the morning even if your soul is weary and your bones ache for a rest. I think it’s brave that you keep on living even if you don’t know how to anymore. I think it’s brave that you push away the waves rolling in every day and you decide to fight. I know there are days when you feel like giving up, but I think it’s brave that you never do.”
Lana Rafaela
“Sometimes music is the only thing that takes your mind off everything else.”
“Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems. Look for someone who won’t let you face them alone.”
“The greatest gifts you can give someone are your time, your love, and your attention.”
“Live and let live.”

Quotes December 10, 2020

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“The fruit of meditation is not the absence of thoughts, but the fact that thoughts cease to harm us.”
Bokar Rinpoche
“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.”
Desmond Tutu
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
Albert Einstein
“If today gets difficult, remember the smell of coffee, the way sunlight bounces off a window, the sound of your favorite person’s laugh, the feeling when a song you love comes on, the color of the sky at dusk, and that we are here to take care of each other.”
Nanea Hoffman
In Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird, the main character Atticus Finch says, “I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It’s when you know you’re licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what.”

“Standing up for yourself doesn’t make you argumentative. Sharing your feelings doesn’t make you overly sensitive. And saying no doesn’t make you uncaring or selfish. If someone won’t respect your feelings, needs, and boundaries, the problem isn’t you; it’s them.”
Lori Deschene
“You’ll be amazed at what you attract when you start believing in what you deserve.”

Quotes November 30, 2020

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“If you think there’s something missing from your life, it’s probably you.”
Robert Holden

“Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that their behavior was ‘OK.’ What it does mean is that we’re ready to move on. To release the heavy weight. To shape our own life, on our terms, without any unnecessary burdens. Forgiveness is pure freedom—and forgiveness is a choice.”
Dr. Suzanne Gelb

Your Strength

1. You’ve survived every challenge life has thrown at you, and there have been a lot.

2. You’ve done your best in every situation, based on where you were at that time in your life, where you’ve come from, and the resources at your disposal.

3. You’ve acknowledged and worked on weaknesses—maybe not always, and maybe not without some resistance. But you’ve made progress countless times when it would have been easier to stay stuck where you were.

4. You’ve risen back up after failure and rejection. You could have given up when you were laid off, or passed up for the job, or told “It’s not you, it’s me…,” but you licked your wounds, got through it, and put yourself back out there instead.

5. You’ve forgiven, the ultimate test of one’s strength. You may not be ready to forgive everyone who’s hurt you, but you have done it before, even though it was hard.

6. You’ve apologized. It’s not always easy to admit mistakes, but you’ve done it. You’ve owned your part, acknowledged pain caused, and vowed to do better going forward.

7. You’ve tried things outside your comfort zone, whether that means taking a new job overseas or saying hello when you would have preferred to stare at your feet.

8. You’ve faced a fear at some point. It may have seemed small to you, but any time you do something that scares you, it’s huge!

9. You’ve adapted to change, often without having chosen it, and have grown through the experience.

10. You’ve solved problems that could have crippled you and have helped other people with their problems while grappling with your own.

Your Kindness

11. You have good intentions. You might think you sometimes do the wrong things, but your heart’s generally in the right place.

12. You’ve made someone feel appreciated, and maybe many someones, by acknowledging their efforts and thanking them for what they’ve done.

13. You’ve made someone’s day, probably without even realizing it, by listening, understanding, or simply being thoughtful and kind.

14. You make people laugh—maybe even at your laugh, because you cackle or snort or sound like Beavis. (Too young for the reference? Google it!)

15. You look out for the people you love. When you say you care, you mean it, and you back it up with actions.

16. You smile at people. It might seem insignificant, but your smile has likely been someone’s lighthouse on a dark, scary day.

17. You remember the important things—or at least some of them. That “Happy birthday” card or call or text? It was a simple acknowledgement that helped someone feel valued and loved.

18. You ask people how they’re doing. You might not always get an honest response, but you’re willing to receive it.

19. You treat people how you’d like to be treated more often than not. Sometimes you slip up—you’re only human, after all! But you do your best to be a decent human being who treats other people with respect.

20. You’ve given second chances when you knew someone really needed it.

Your You-ness

21. You have many positive qualities, whether you realize it or not. Maybe you’re adventurous or brave or creative or dependable—or all of the above. You could probably go through the whole alphabet and list twenty-six amazing qualities for each letter that you possess. (Or at least twenty-five—X is tough!)

22. You’re passionate about something, whether it’s your work, a hobby, a dream for the future, or your family, and that passion is both admirable and contagious.

23. You have unique quirks that make you interesting, endearing, and fun to be around. Maybe you have a passion for Steampunk, or you talk to your plants, or you collect something weird, like umbrella sleeves.

24. You have eclectic taste and have likely introduced other people to many things they’ve come to enjoy—bands, movies, books, restaurants, the list goes on and on.

25. You’re beautifully messy, like all human beings, and your emotions give you empathy, depth, and many other gifts you may not even recognize.

26. You’re creative in your own way—everyone is! Maybe you bake or write or make cool things out of wine corks or scrabble pieces or rocks.

27. You have your own kind of smarts—book smarts, street smarts, emotional intelligence, maybe even all three.

28. You have a voice that has soothed someone, even if it sounds like Sofia Vergara’s, simply because it’s yours.

29. You are physically a work of art. Seriously. Our culture has long promoted a one-size-fits-all definition of beauty (though, thankfully, that seems to be changing), but there’s beauty to be found in every unique combination of body and facial features. Big noses, asymmetrical eyes, crooked smiles—every last of one of them, beautiful!

30. You are mentally fascinating. Just think of all the outlandish, complex, crazy thoughts that go through your mind each day.

Your Journey

31. You’ve amassed a vast assortment of experiences that have given you insight and a unique perspective. No one else sees the world exactly like you!

32. You’ve healed and grown through all your ups and downs, becoming stronger and wiser every day.

33. You’ve done some interesting things in your time. If our lives really do flash before our eyes before we die, yours definitely won’t be boring!

34. You’ve learned what matters to you throughout the years, and you’ve tried your best to honor those things.

35. You’ve started over when it was hard, whether it was a new direction, a new job, a new location, or a new relationship.

36. You’ve found and/or created opportunities for yourself, and possibly in fields that aren’t easy to break into.

37. You’ve adulted: you’ve fed yourself, done laundry, cleaned your house, paid your bills, and done countless other responsible things—often when you would have preferred to lie under a blanket fort eating cereal from an oversized bowl.

38. You’ve built a treasure chest of amazing memories through the years, and you recognize them for the gold they are.

39. You’re the co-star in many other people’s favorite memories.

40. You’ve made it to where you are right now. And here you are, strong, kind, uniquely you, and worth celebrating.

Quotes November 18, 2020

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“You must first teach a child he is loved. Only then is he ready to learn everything else.”
Amanda Morgan
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
“Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you lived through it. Honor your path. Trust your journey. Learn, grow, evolve, become.”
Creig Crippen
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
“Nothing in the world can bother you as much as your own mind, I tell you. In fact, others seem to be bothering you, but it is not others, it is your own mind.”
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”
Brené Brown
“Don’t shoot what it looks like, shoot what it feels like.”
David Alan Harvey, Photographer
“Do something today that your future self will thank you for.”
“You don’t suffer because you have thoughts. You suffer because you judge them, resist them, believe them, wallow in them, or identify with them.”
“The biggest lie we’re told is ‘Be with someone who makes you happy.’ The truth is, happiness is something you create on your own. Be with someone who adds to it.”

Quotes November 02, 2020

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with one another—and ourselves.”
Jack Kornfield
“Progress is impossible without change.”
Walt Disney
“Recovering from PTSD is being fragile and strong at the same time. It’s a beautiful medley of constantly being broken down and pieced together. I am a painting almost done to completion, beautiful but not quite complete.”
Kate J. Tate
“When solving problems, dig at the root instead of just hacking at the leaves.”
Anthony J. D’Angelo
“And still, after all this time, the Sun has never said to the Earth, ‘You owe me.’ Look what happens with a love like that. It lights up the sky.”
“It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.”
Tony Robbins
“What I’m looking for is not out there, it is in me.”
Helen Keller
“I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.”
Hafiz of Shiraz
“Happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase it, the more it will evade you, but if you notice the other things around you, it will gently come and sit on your shoulder.”
Henry David Thoreau
“Along the way I stopped into a coffee shop. All around me normal, everyday city types were going about their normal, everyday affairs…In spite of which—or, rather, all the more because— here I was, sitting in this coffee shop, drinking my coffee, feeling a desperate loneliness. I alone was the outsider. I had no place here… Here I had no ties to anyone. Fact is, I’d come to reclaim myself.”
Haruki Murakami
“The great use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.”
William James
“You can’t stop negative thoughts from popping into your head, but you can choose to stop letting them control you and your life.”
Lori Deschene
“Today be thankful and think how rich you are. Your family is priceless. Your health is wealth. Your time is gold.”

Quotes October 13, 2020

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives.”
“Talk to yourself like someone you love.”
Brené Brown
“There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.”
Miyamoto Musashi
“Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.”
George S. Patton
“If one by one we counted people out for the least sin, it wouldn’t take us long to get so we had no one left to live with. For to be social is to be forgiving.”
Robert Frost
“We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming, or cruel when we speak our thoughts.”
Melody Beattie