Tag: Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

Quotes September 25, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha


 
 
“As rain falls equally on the just and the unjust, do not burden your heart with judgments but rain your kindness equally on all.”
Buddha
 
 
 
 
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”
Brené Brown
 
 
 
 
“Keep all special thoughts and memories for lifetimes to come. Share these keepsakes with others to inspire hope and build from the past, which can bridge to the future.”
Mattie Stepanek
 
 
 
 
“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.”
Rumi
 
 
 
 
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start from where you are and change the end.”
C.S. Lewis
 
 
 
 
“The truth is that there is no such thing as a negative emotion. Emotions only become ‘bad’ and have a negative effect on us when they are suppressed, denied, or unexpressed.” ~Colin Tipping
 
 
 
 
“There is no place so awake and alive as the edge of becoming.”
Sue Monk Kidd
 
 
 
 
“Don’t equate your self-worth with how well you do in life. You aren’t what you do. If you are what you do, then when you don’t…you aren’t.”
Wayne Dyer
 
 
 
 
“If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be looking for someone else to fill the void inside you, but no one will ever be able to do it.”
Lori Deschene
 
 
 
 
“Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside.”
Unknown

Quotes September 09, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”
Pema Chadron
 
 
 
 
“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”
Sydney J. Harris
 
 
 
 
“Lean into the discomfort of the work.”
Brené Brown
 
 
 
 
“I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.”
J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King
 
 
 
 
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.”
Oprah Winfrey
 
 
 
 
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.”
William Arthur Ward
 
 
 
 
“I used to dislike being sensitive. I thought it made me weak. But take away that single trait, and you take away the very essence of who I am.”
Caitlin Japa
 
 
 
 
“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.”
C.S. Lewis
 
 
 
 
“Thoughts fuel emotions. If you don’t like what you’re feeling, step back and examine what you’re thinking. Pain is inevitable, but you’ll suffer a lot less if you disengage from your thoughts.”
“Practice the pause. Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you’re about to react harshly and you’ll avoid doing and saying things you’ll later regret.”
Lori Deschene
 
 
 
 

“When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.”
“Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.”
Unknown

Quotes August 23, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha


 
 
“Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”
Eckhart Tolle
 
 
 
 
“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.”
Steve Jobs
 
 
 
 
“I learned that courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
Nelson Mandela
 
 
 
 
“The choice that frees or imprisons us is the choice of love or fear. Love liberates. Fear imprisons.”
Gary Zukav
 
 
 
 
“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.”
Frederick Douglass
 
 
 
 
“If we can see past perceived limitations, then the possibilities are endless.”
Amy Purdy
 
 
 
 
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
 
 
 
 
“A healer does not heal you. A healer is someone who holds space for you while you awaken your inner healer, so that you may heal yourself.”
Maryam Hasnaa
 
 
 
 
But it all starts with deciding that you’re done with the painful relationship experiences you are having and that you’re committed to making EPIC LOVE happen.

A love that leaves you feeling appreciated and satisfied.

A love that feels safe.

A love that lets you rise and thrive.

A love I which you feel better than “good enough.”

Decide, choose that kind of love and say yes to yourself.

That’s the first act of real love.
Marlena Tillhon
 
 
 
 

Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day and the rest will fall into place.”
Unknown

Quotes August 09, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha


 
 
“The struggle of my life created empathy—I could relate to pain, being abandoned, having people not love me.”
Oprah Winfrey
 
 
 
 
“Freedom is taking control of the rudder of your life.”
Yukito Kishiro
 
 
 
 
“There remains what seems to be an impenetrable wall of silence around violence, and we must all play a role in breaking this silence.”
Reese Witherspoon
 
 
 
 
“You can’t calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass.”
Timber Hawkeye
 
 
 
 
“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.”
John Holmes
 
 
 
 
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
C.G. Jung
 
 
 
 
“We forget what we want to remember and remember what we want to forget.”
The Road
 
 
 
 
“Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need, rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom.”
Ashleigh Warner
 
 
 
 
“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”
Jack Kornfield
 
 
 
 
“I would argue that nothing gives life more purpose than the realization that every moment of consciousness is a precious and fragile gift.”
Steven Pinker
 
 
 
 
“Just when the caterpillar thought her life was over, she became a butterfly.”
Unknown
 
 
 
 
“What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.”
Unknown

Quotes July 31, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

 
 
Ellen Bard:

Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Mind

1. Start a compliments file. Document the great things people say about you to read later.

2. Scratch off a lurker on your to-do list, something that’s been there for ages and you’ll never do.

3. Change up the way you make decisions. Decide something with your heart if you usually use your head. Or if you tend to go with your heart, decide with your head.

4. Go cloud-watching. Lie on your back, relax, and watch the sky.

5. Take another route to work. Mixing up your routine in small ways creates new neural pathways in the brain to keep it healthy.

6. Pay complete attention to something you usually do on autopilot, perhaps brushing your teeth, driving, eating, or performing your morning routine.

7. Goof around for a bit. Schedule in five minutes of “play” (non-directed activity) several times throughout your day.

8. Create a deliberate habit, and routinize something small in your life by doing it in the same way each day—what you wear on Tuesdays, or picking up the dental floss before you brush.

9. Fix a small annoyance at home that’s been nagging you—a button lost, a drawer that’s stuck, a light bulb that’s gone.

10. Punctuate your day with a mini-meditation with one minute of awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations; one minute of focused attention on breathing; and one minute of awareness of the body as a whole.

11. Be selfish. Do one thing today just because it makes you happy.

12. Do a mini-declutter. Recycle three things from your wardrobe that you don’t love or regularly wear.

13. Unplug for an hour. Switch everything to airplane mode and free yourself from the constant bings of social media and email.

14. Get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just talking to a stranger at the bus stop.

15. Edit your social media feeds, and take out any negative people. You can just “mute” them; you don’t have to delete them.
 
 

Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Body

1. Give your body ten minutes of mindful attention. Use the body scan technique to check in with each part of your body.

2. Oxygenate by taking three deep breaths. Breathe into your abdomen, and let the air puff out your stomach and chest.

3. Get down and boogie. Put on your favorite upbeat record and shake your booty.

4. Stretch out the kinks. If you’re at work, you can always head to the bathroom to avoid strange looks.

5. Run (or walk, depending on your current physical health) for a few minutes. Or go up and down the stairs three times.

6. Narrow your food choices. Pick two healthy breakfasts, lunches, and dinners and rotate for the week.

7. Activate your self-soothing system. Stroke your own arm, or if that feels too weird, moisturize.

8. Get to know yourself intimately. Look lovingly and without judgment at yourself naked. (Use a mirror to make sure you get to know all of you!)

9. Make one small change to your diet for the week. Drink an extra glass of water each day, or have an extra portion of veggies each meal.

10. Give your body a treat. Pick something from your wardrobe that feels great next to your skin.

11. Be still. Sit somewhere green, and be quiet for a few minutes.

12. Get fifteen minutes of sun, especially if you’re in a cold climate. (Use sunscreen if appropriate.)

13. Inhale an upbeat smell. Try peppermint to suppress food cravings and boost mood and motivation.

14. Have a good laugh. Read a couple of comic strips that you enjoy. (For inspiration, try Calvin and Hobbes, Dilbert, or xkcd.)

15. Take a quick nap. Ten to twenty minutes can reduce your sleep debt and leave you ready for action.

 
 
Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Soul

1. Imagine you’re your best friend. If you were, what would you tell yourself right now? Look in the mirror and say it.

2. Use your commute for a “Beauty Scavenger Hunt.” Find five unexpected beautiful things on your way to work.

3. Help someone. Carry a bag, open a door, or pick up an extra carton of milk for a neighbor.

4. Check in with your emotions. Sit quietly and just name without judgment what you’re feeling.

5. Write out your thoughts. Go for fifteen minutes on anything bothering you. Then let it go as you burn or bin the paper.

6. Choose who you spend your time with today. Hang out with “Radiators” who emit enthusiasm and positivity, and not “Drains” whose pessimism and negativity robs energy.

7. Stroke a pet. If you don’t have one, go to the park and find one. (Ask first!)

8. Get positive feedback. Ask three good friends to tell you what they love about you.

9. Make a small connection. Have a few sentences of conversation with someone in customer service such as a sales assistant or barista.

10. Splurge a little. Buy a small luxury as a way of valuing yourself.

11. Have a self-date. Spend an hour alone doing something that nourishes you (reading, your hobby, visiting a museum or gallery, etc.)

12. Exercise a signature strength. Think about what you’re good at, and find an opportunity for it today.

13. Take a home spa. Have a long bath or shower, sit around in your bathrobe, and read magazines.

14. Ask for help—big or small, but reach out.

15. Plan a two-day holiday for next weekend. Turn off your phone, tell people you’ll be away, and then do something new in your own town.

Quotes July 19, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Of all things, it would seem, make friends with depersonalization. Enemies within consciousness never work, and only escalate the problem. Befriend it, consider it part of life to work with it. We can’t expel it or cancel it. When we try, the pressure makes a volcano out of it. This is true of so many things, it must be true of DDD too.”
David Hench
 
 
 
 
“Sensitive people feel so deeply they often have to retreat from the world, in order to dig beneath the layers of pain to find their faith and courage.”
Shannon L. Alder
 
 
 
 
“Let us prepare our minds as if we’d come to the very end of life. Let us postpone nothing. Let us balance life’s books each day. The one who puts the finishing touches on their life each day is never short of time.”
Seneca
 
 
 
 
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
 
 
 
 
“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
Joseph Campbell
 
 
 
 
“Yes, love is all about sacrifice and compromise, but it’s important also to establish a limit. You shouldn’t have to throw your whole life away to make a relationship work. If you have to lose yourself to please your partner, you’re with the wrong person.”
Beau Taplin
 
 
 
 
“When I got sober, I thought giving up was saying goodbye to all the fun and all the sparkle, and it turned out to be just the opposite. That’s when the sparkle started for me.”
Mary Karr
 
 
 
 
“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”
James Allen
 
 
 
 
“If you love yourself it doesn’t matter if other people don’t like you because you don’t need their approval to feel good about yourself.”
Lori Deschene

Quotes July 06, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha


 
 
“Winning the war of words inside your soul means learning to defy your inner critic.”
Steven Furtick
 
 
 
 
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
Rumi
 
 
 
 
“Happiness can only be found if you free yourself from all other distractions.”
Saul Bellow
 
 
 
 
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
Oscar Wilde
 
 
 
 
“Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the centre of meaningful human experiences”
Brené Brown
 
 
 
 
“Sometimes you simply have to accept that you can’t accomplish as much as you’d like to. If you’re sick, tired, or hurting emotionally, you just have to do what you reasonably you can and then give yourself whatever you need to feel better. You may feel like you’re falling behind, but you’re not failing. You’re doing what you need to do to take good care of yourself, and that’s the most important thing you can do when you’re struggling.”
Lori Deschene
 
 
“If you’re giving your all but it takes all you have just to get through the day, it doesn’t mean your best isn’t good enough. It means life is just that hard right now. Be good to yourself. You need it.”
Lori Deschene
 
 
“Most of us expect far too much from ourselves and never give ourselves credit for all the things we’re doing right. You’re trying your best, facing challenges that would likely overwhelm anyone, and learning and growing every day. And you’re doing it while feeling a range of messy, confusing emotions and healing from pains large and small from the past. Stop and give yourself a little credit. You’re stronger than you know, and you’re doing better than you think.”
Lori Deschene
 
 
 
 
“And some days life is just hard. And some days are just rough. And some days you just gotta cry before you move forward. And all of that is okay.”
Unknown

Quotes June 27, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha


 
 
Our Basic Goodness
The gold of our true nature can never be tarnished. No matter how it might get covered over or disguised by feelings of anger, deficiency, or fear, our awareness remains radiant and pure. In the moments of remembering and trusting this basic goodness of our Being, the grip of “something’s wrong” dissolves and we open to happiness, peace, and freedom.
Tara Brach
 
 
“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.”
Jim Morrison
 
 
“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.”
Eckhart Tolle
 
 
“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.”
Paulo Coelho
 
 
“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.”
Steve Maraboli
 
 
“The best possible thing you can get out of a relationship is that you’re with someone who encourages you to be the best version of yourself every day.”
Nishan Panwar
 
 
“Never feel sorry for choosing yourself.”
Unknown

Quotes June 14, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha


 
 
“I hope you find love, but more importantly, I hope you’re strong enough to walk away from what love isn’t.”
Tiffany Tomiko
 
 
 
 
“Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally.”
Kamand Kojouri
 
 
 
 
“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.”
Brené Brown
 
 
 
 
“Stop shoulding on yourself.”
Albert Ellis
 
 
 
 
“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
Pablo Picasso
 
 
 
 
“You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.”
James Clear
 
 
 
 
“Your inner critic is simply a part of you that needs more self-love.”
Amy Leigh Mercee
 
 
 
 
“We only live once, Snoopy.”
Charlie Brown
 
 
“Wrong. We only die once. We live every day.”
Snoopy
 
 
 
 
“You don’t have to rebuild a relationship with everyone you’ve forgiven.”
Unknown
 
 
 
 
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”
Unknown

Quotes May 27, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

 
 
“Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted—it is an intimate date with yourself.”
Paul TP Wong
 
 
“Do not let the roles you play in life make you forget who you are.”
Roy T. Bennett
 
 
“No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow.”
Alice Walker
 
 
“I’d go back to my younger self and, ‘Lighten up. Take it easy. Relax. Don’t be so anxious about everything. Try not to have today stolen from you by anxiety about yesterday or tomorrow.’”
Bill Nighy
 
 
“Each of us has an inner compass. This is an instinct that points us toward health. It warns us when we are on dangerous ground, and it tells us when something is safe and good for us.”
Julia Cameron
 
 
“I decided that the single most subversive, revolutionary thing I could do was to show up for my life and not be ashamed.”
Anne Lamott
 
 
“We eventually learn that emotional closure is our own action.”
David Deida
 
 
“Our intention creates our reality.”
Wayne Dyer
 
 
“Tears of despair can be fuel. Thunders of anger can be light.”
Maxime Lagacé
 
 
“Making a big life change is scary, but you know what’s even scarier? Regret.”
Zig Ziglar
 
 
“And here you are, living despite it all.”
Rupi Kaur
 
 
“The more we love the more we lose. The more we lose the more we learn. The more we learn the more we love. It comes full circle. Life is the school; love is the lesson. We cannot lose.”
Kate McGahan
 
 
“I can’t say when you’ll get love or how you’ll find it or even promise that you will. I can only say you are worthy of it and that it’s never too much to ask for it and that it’s not crazy to fear you’ll never have it again, even though your fears are probably wrong. Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning. It’s the best thing we have to give and the most valuable thing we receive. It’s worthy of all the hullabaloo.”
Cheryl Strayed
 
 
“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.”
Louise Hay
 
 
“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes when you take nothing personally.”
Don Miguel Ruiz
 
 
“Don’t force yourself to fit where you don’t belong.”
Unknown
 
 
“Don’t try to understand everything, because sometimes it’s not meant to be understood, but accepted.”
Unknown