Tag: Lori Deschene

Quotes April 26, 2018

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha
 
 
Anxiety coping mechanisms
 
 
I’m not a dying zebra! I watched something that said stress is a natural part of our fight or flight response, which is helpful if you’re on the savanna running from a hungry lion.
Jenn Miles
 
 
 
Anxiety is my body’s way of trying to protect me. My body has good intentions. It’s just a little misguided. I’m grateful for my body’s protection.
Jenny Britt
 
 
 
 
I try to think about what is causing me anxiety, and it is typically a thought or thoughts about the past or future. I remind myself that I am okay in this moment, and all we ever have is this moment. It helps me.
Angela Regan-Storvick
 
 
 
 
Since mine stems from thoughts that then spiral, I remind myself that thoughts are just that. They do not have to have meaning attached to them if I do not let them. Let them come in and out and give them no power, no meaning. Do not fuel them but let them come and go. They do not have to be reality, and most times they are not a reflection of reality or my true self, just plain old thoughts, and I do not have to react to every single one.
April Rutledge
 
 
 
 
I remind myself that my worrying will not change the outcome—never has and never will. Then I focus on what I’m grateful for, things that are beautiful and wonderful in my life right now. And lastly I repeat this: “I let go and I trust that I am being taken care of.”
Joie Kreze
 
 
 
 
I try to remind myself that whatever is causing my anxiety is temporary and if I’m patient, it will be resolved.
Jess Swanson
 
 
 
 
I try very hard to remember that for most situations, they will pass whether I get all stressed out or not.
Karen Jane Lehman
 
 
 
 
My mantra: “It’s just adrenaline. It can’t hurt you. It will pass.”
Chuck Striler
 
 
 
The situation isn’t life or death. I’ll live to see another day despite the outcome.
Claire Denney
 
 
 
 
I breathe and repeat to myself: “I’m safe. I’m okay. I can take care of myself. I am powerful. I am significant.” Repeating it helps me refocus.
Ida Zakin
 
 
 
 
I can handle whatever happens. I always have, one way or another. If things don’t work out the way I expect then that’s okay too. The anxiety will pass and I will be stronger afterward.
Suzy Wedley
 
 
 
 
I verbally acknowledge and remind my inner child that it’s okay, and “Adult Doug” will take care of it. That’s where the anxiety arises from. I know as an adult that my success rate of surviving any crises I’ve faced is 100%. My little inner “Doug” gets scared and feels anxious, afraid, and insecure, so I just tell him that I have it in control.
Doug Marcum
 
 
 
 
If you just let the current carry you to where it will for a little while, the river will eventually spit you out. Just go with it and it’s going to be okay.
Renee Breuer
 
 
 
 
I try to remind myself that I have what I need: air, water, food, clothing, shelter. Then I remind myself to keep things in perspective and that I can choose how I am.
Lorna Lewis
 
 
 
 
I get anxiety over little things and I have to remind myself of how much I have overcome. If I can get through two brain surgeries, four different types of radiation treatment, Thyroidectomy for Thyroid Cancer, and a left neck dissection, I can get through the little stuff. Sometimes you just have to push through the discomfort of the situation and see it will be fine.
Sara Ruggiero
 
 
 
 
I concentrate on what positive is going on right now this minute. I am safe, I am not hungry, I have a good job, a husband that loves me, my family is safe and healthy. I keep going until I feel the tension fading. Then slowly but surely I can clear my head enough to take on what lies ahead of me.
Birgit Gerwig
 
 
 
 
Things could be worse. I have my health. I try to count my blessings.
Colleen Tayler
 
 
 
 
I think of all the people who love me. I picture their faces and I imagine myself surrounded by a bubble of love, and as I’m breathing deeply I’m breathing that love in and out.
Conni Wrightsman
 
 
 
 
Four by four, how will I feel about this? Will it still seem huge and overwhelming looking back in four days, four weeks, four months, four years? It helps me to put things in perspective .
Jacqui Learmonth
 
 
 
 
I ask myself, “Am I, or is someone I love in danger right now, in this moment?” 99.9% of the time, the answer is no, so I do some breathing and relaxation exercises to calm my mind and deal with the situation from a healthier perspective.
Celeste Rothstein
 
 
 
 
I ask myself: What are the most important things in my life, and then focus on that. What I am stressing about usually isn’t one of the important things.
Nicole Neubauer
 
 
 
 
Give your brain a simple task. Sit and breathe. Stare at a wall. Put yourself in time out and inhale slowly. You are not wasting your time. Thoughts will float into your mind. Let them keep floating. Re-align your spine as you sit. And breathe. Take ten minutes if you can. If you can’t, even a minute is better than nothing.
Dabe Charon
 
 
 
 
Inhale for four counts, hold for seven counts, exhale for eight counts.
Lisa Martinez
 
 
 
 
Breathe. If that doesn’t work I run. It forces me to regulate my breathing. This will calm my body down forcing my mind to calm down as well.
Carolyn Stennard
 
 
 
 
Trust and anxiety are mutually exclusive so focus on trust, whatever you can trust at the moment, and anxiety moves out.
Alexia Bogdis
 
 
 
 
“One step at a time.” I tend to become anxious because I worry and overthink things that I can’t control and may or may not happen in the future. So I started to think this in my head whenever I notice the feeling creeping up. To take action one step at a time on something that I can control and let the rest run its course.
Adelia Benalius
 
 
 
 
Sometimes it’s not enough to take it day by day. Sometimes, it’s hour by hour, or even minute by minute. And if I breathe and stay calm, I can make better decisions to effect positive change with the situation with which I’m dealing.
Susan Stephenitch
 
 
 
 
Write it down, get it off your chest, relax, make a plan of attack. Do something instead of worrying. Don’t let it take away today’s peace. Nothing stays the same!
Lisa Marie Wilson
 
 
 
 
Anxiety can often come from a place of judgment of the self. Stop, breathe, and surrender to self-compassion.
Christine Strauss
 
 
 
 
Know you’re not alone. Others are struggling with something as well. We’re all in this together!
Melanie Rn

Quotes April 08, 2018

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Each day comes bearing its own gifts. Untie the ribbons.”
Ruth Ann Schabacker
 
 
 
 
“A healer does not heal you. A healer is someone who holds space for you while you awaken your inner healer, so that you may heal yourself.”
Maryam Hasnaa
 
 
 
 
It’s a wave I must let hit me and ride until it passes. Fighting it prolongs it and turns it into a riptide.
Lori Craven
 
 
 
 
“Wisdom is merely the movement from fighting life to embracing it.”
Rasheed Ogunlaru
 
 
 
 
“Mindful and creative, a child who has neither a past, nor examples to follow, nor value judgments, simply lives, speaks and plays in freedom.”
Arnaud Desjardins
 
 
 
 
“Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles.”
Charlie Chaplin
 
 
 
 
With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
Without any doubting or quiddit,
He started to sing as tackled the thing
That couldn’t be done and he did it.
Edgar Guest
 
 
 
 
“Love is not what you say. Love is what you do.”
Unknown
 
 
 
 
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.”
Unknown

10 Powerful Quotes on Overcoming Adversity December 20, 2017

10 Powerful Quotes on Overcoming Diversity

From Michael Hingson, who was born blind, later survived 9-11 with the help of his guide dog, and then wrote the bestselling memoir Thunder Dog:
“If I were to suggest to other people what they ‘should’ do if they’re going through a tragedy or any kind of unexpected change I would say you must start with accepting the fact that the change happened, especially if you didn’t have control over it. And even if you did and it took an unexpected turn where you were left in a quandary, you must start with ‘All right, where am I?’ Get over the fact that it happened—‘Now where do I go from here?’ I don’t care what the challenge is, we all can start with that.”

From Amy Morin, who lost her mother, husband, and father-in-law in quick succession and then wrote the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do:
“It’s tempting to try to avoid the sadness and distress associated with grief—but if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that you have to face your emotions head-on. Other people will try to cheer you up because they’re uncomfortable with you being sad, but let yourself feel sad and angry and lonely. Time doesn’t heal anything. It’s what you do with that time that matters. So it’s important to use your time to heal—and part of healing means experiencing a wide variety of emotions. And don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends, family, and professionals. Your connections with other people can make all the difference in the world.”

From Natalie Taylor, who lost her husband, Josh, while pregnant with their first child:
“One thing I try to say to myself when I hit a bad patch is this idea that ‘it will pass.’ I won’t feel this way the whole day or the whole week. So I sort of embrace it and go through it because it will pass. It’s not that I ignore it. When I do get sad I remind myself that I’ll be happy again, eventually, or I’ll do something else in the day that will make me happy. I just know that things change quickly, although with grief they don’t change so quickly. At this point, four years out, my day-to-day attitude is so much more positive than it was three or four years ago obviously.

From Meredith Viera, journalist, TV personality, and caregiver to her husband Richard Cohen, who’s been living with MS for more than thirty years:
“Build that group of friends, that support system around you. Go for it. Don’t be afraid. Don’t feel that you’re a burden to other people. And don’t be ashamed of illness. What you’ll discover is everybody else has their own thing. People don’t like to talk about stuff. They hide it, but if you’re open and you say you need help, people will be there for you. It’s important to know they’re there. It’s like it takes a village; when there’s illness it takes a village too. Most people have been phenomenal.”

From Laverne Bissky, who started the No Ordinary Journey Foundation to help children, like her daughter, who struggle with Cerebral Palsy:
“For me coping is about balance: not static balance but dynamic balance because life is always in a state of flux. It’s about knowing when to push hard and when to rest. When to fight and when to let go. When to use and when to conserve resources. When to work hard and when to have fun. Practicing mindfulness helps me to know when to shift between these. It’s about paying attention to what is going on inside of you.”

From Natasha Alexenko, sexual assault survivor and founder of Natasha’s Justice Project, whose mission is to ensure rape kits are tested and investigated quickly:
“You don’t always have to be productive. You’re biggest responsibility is to yourself and making sure you’re OK. If you are not feeling well emotionally or mentally, you should treat yourself almost like you’re ill. If you had a cold you wouldn’t necessarily mop your floors or do your laundry. You’re allowed to take a moment to smell the roses and not be hard on yourself.”


From Julie Genovese, who wrote the memoir Nothing Short of Joy to share her story of living with a physically and emotionally challenging form of dwarfism:
“I didn’t realize I had a choice of how to see my challenges. When I turned it around to see those challenges as adventures or as mountains to climb so that I could see a fantastic view, my attitude changed; that shift in perspective would change all of it. I realized I did have more of this inner divine power than I had realized in the past. It’s a universal quality that keeps us moving forward. It’s that desire to be our own truth, to be our whole self. We are all born into these different handicaps, visible or invisible, and they are the catalyst to wake us up and remind us that we came here for growth and awareness. Our hardship and struggles are that springboard to appreciate what we can have here if we look at it differently, or if we experience it with new senses—like jumping into a pool after a horribly hot day is ten times better than jumping into a pool every day when you’ve never really gotten hot. As humans we have these catalysts to keep prodding us forward and to keep remembering there’s a greater and more beautiful truth than maybe what we’re living.”

From Dr. Daniel Gottlieb, psychologist, author, and radio show host, who’s been paraplegic since a car accident three decades ago:
“When I’m in a dark hole, I want someone who loves me enough to sit there next to me and not tell me there’s light on the other side. Words are not going to do anything and 90% of the time they’re going to be patronizing. They’re also going to be a byproduct of your own anxiety and helplessness. Just sit with me. Just have the courage to try to fathom what I’m experiencing.”

From Judy Shephard, who lost her son to an anti-gay hate crime and then founded the Matthew Shephard Foundation to help erase hate:
“In my personal experience, as well as that of many very close friends and family members, you don’t ‘emerge.’ The darkness is always there; it just gets different. It becomes something you can look at with some objectivity. We still have joy and happiness in our lives; it’s just different. At least, that is what it has been for my family to date. My advice is not to let anyone tell you the accepted time limit for grief—it is limitless. That being said, it must also become something you embrace rather than fear. We’ve encouraged our friends and family to still share memories of Matt, not to shy away from remembering him. He will always be a part of our lives and that is a good thing.”

From Julia Fox Garrison, stroke survivor and author of the memoir Don’t Leave Me This Way:
“I think we are conditioned to say the word ‘can’t’ which closes all doors to possibilities. I have discovered that if you include the word ‘yet’ then the door to opportunity remains ajar. I used to say ‘can’t’ so often that it became second nature in conversation. Now I avoid saying ‘can’t’, but when I need to say it, I always include the qualifier, ‘yet’. So I can’t rollerblade yet, but I plan on it someday, maybe.”

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha

“Just like a muscle needs to tear to grow stronger, sometimes we need to wade into our own darkness to find a brighter light.”
Lori Deschene

Quotes December 06, 2017

“The man who is prepared has his battle half fought.”
Miguel De Cervantes
 
 
 
 
“The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.”
Pema Chodron
 
 
 
 
“Be there. Be open. Be honest. Be kind. Be willing to listen, understand, accept, support, and forgive. This is what it means to love.”
Lori Deschene
 
 
 
 
“The don’t-know mind… doesn’t fear, has no wish to control or foresee, steps off the cliff of the moment with absolute trust that the next step will land somewhere, and the next step somewhere else, and the feet will take us wherever we need to go.”
Byron Katie
 
 
 
 
“Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.”
Roberto Assagioli
 
 
 
 
“All that I seek is already in me. “
Louise Hay
 
 
 
 
“We’ve all heard the saying, stop and smell the roses. But it would be far better to be the gardener who grows the roses and lives with them constantly.”
Deepak Chopra
 
 
 
 
“Remember that there is no magic wand that can take away the pain and grief. The best any of us can do is to be there and be supportive.”
Marilyn Mendoza
 
 
 
 
You will succeed if you persevere, and you will find a joy in overcoming obstacles, a delight in climbing rugged paths, which you would perhaps never know if you did not sometime slip backward.
Helen Keller,
writer and activist
 
 
 
 
“As you sow in your subconscious mind, so shall you reap in your body and environment.”
Joseph Murphy
 
 
 
 
“Creativity is the way I share my soul with the world.”
Brené Brown
 
 
 
 
“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.”
Steve Maraboli
 
 
 
 
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”
Buddha
 
 
 
 
“Sometimes walking away is the only option because you finally respect yourself enough to know that you deserve better.”
Unknown