“We aim above the mark to hit the mark.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.
“If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.”
Henry David Thoreau
“We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment.”
“The principles of living greatly include the capacity to face trouble with courage, disappointment with cheerfulness, and trial with humility.”
Thomas S. Monson
“There’s always failure. And there’s always disappointment. And there’s always loss. But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.”
Michael J. Fox
“Disenchantment, whether it is a minor disappointment or a major shock, is the signal that things are moving into transition in our lives.”
William Throsby Bridges
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Jackson Brown Jr., P.S. I Love You
“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”
“Joy is sometimes a blessing, but it is often a conquest. Our magic moment help us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times, and we will experience many disappointments — but all of this is transitory it leaves no permanent mark. And one day we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken.”
Paulo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept
“It was one of those times you feel a sense of loss, even though you didn’t have something in the first place. I guess that’s what disappointment is- a sense of loss for something you never had.”
Deb Caletti, The Nature of Jade
“Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy – the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.”
“There’s an epigram tacked to my office bulletin board, pinched from a magazine — “Wanting to meet an author because you like his work is like wanting to meet a duck because you like pâté.”
Margaret Atwood, Negotiating with the Dead
“You really didn’t see the sadness or the longing unless you already knew it was there. But that was the trick, wasn’t it? Everyone had their disappointment and their baggage; only, some people carried it in their inside pockets and not on their backs.”
Maggie Stiefvater, The Dream Thieves
“The strength of a love is always misjudged if we evaluate it by its immediate cause and not the stress that went before it, the dark and hollow space full of disappointment and loneliness that precedes all the great events in the heart’s history.”
Stefan Zweig, The Burning Secret and other stories
“We aim above the mark to hit the mark.”
I liked being half-educated; you were so much more surprised at everything when you were ignorant.
naturalist and television presenter
Ask yourself three questions … and you will know who you are. Ask: what do you believe in? What do you hope for? But most important — ask: what do you love?
author, in “The Bronze Horseman”
My little brother just asked, “Why are people so nice to the people are about to die?”
And I told him that we want to make their last few moments on earth happy, and he told me “Everyone dies a little everyday and sometimes we don’t know when a person is going to die, so why isn’t everyone always nice, because we never know what’s going to happen to someone”. Wow
This is going to sound grim, but eventually, all our graves go unattended.
talk show host
“Certain flaws are necessary for the whole. It would seem strange if old friends lacked certain quirks.”
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
“People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection, which they cannot have, and looking for it where they will never find it.”
“Then followed that beautiful season… Summer… Filled was the air with a dreamy and magical light; and the landscape lay as if new created in all the freshness of childhood.”
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”
Sydney J. Harris
All endings are also beginnings. We just don’t know it at the time.
journalist and broadcaster
What is the use of living, if it be not to strive for noble causes and to make this muddled world a better place for those who will live in it after we are gone?
Optimism is true moral courage.
A true friend is someone who is there for you when he’d rather be anywhere else.
This has always been a motto of mine: Attempt the impossible in order to improve your work.
I hope I shall always possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most enviable of all titles, the character of an honest man.
First US president
“Public opinion is always more tyrannical towards those who obviously fear it than towards those who feel indifferent to it.”
Conquest of Happiness
“In Zen they say: If something is boring after two minutes, try it for four. If still boring, try it for eight, sixteen, thirty-two, and so on. Eventually one discovers that it’s not boring at all but very interesting.”
John Cage, Silence:
Lectures and Writings, by John Cage
“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.”
“The autumn moon is incomparably beautiful. Any man who supposes the moon is always the same, regardless of the season, and is therefore unable to detect the difference in autumn, must be exceedingly insensitive.”
Essays in Idleness,
The Tsurezuregusa of Kenko
I think education is power. I think that being able to communicate with people is power. One of my main goals on the planet is to encourage people to empower themselves.
I have come to believe over and over again that what is most important to me must be spoken, made verbal and shared, even at the risk of having it bruised or misunderstood.
The sea does not reward those who are too anxious, too greedy or too impatient. … One should lie empty, open, choiceless as a beach — waiting for a gift from the sea.
Anne Morrow Lindbergh,
author and aviator
If you reject the food, ignore the customs, fear the religion and avoid the people, you might better stay home.
James A. Michener,
Solidarity among men has one of its strongest foundations in the experience of sharing one’s own suffering with the suffering of all.
Long ago, I made up my mind that when things were said involving only me, I would pay no attention to them, except when valid criticism was carried by which I could profit.
first lady, diplomat and activist
Fight for the things that you care about, but do it in a way that will lead others to join you.
Ruth Bader Ginsburg
“To go against the dominant thinking of your friends, of most of the people you see everyday, is perhaps the most difficult act of heroism you can perform.”
Theodore H. White
Self-awareness, intelligence, and the search for meaning that have –erroneously– been ascribed as belonging only to human beings, are in fact general conditions for every life-form — and particularly for plants.
Stephen Harrod Buhner
“The secret of success is constancy to purpose.”
“Life is precious as it is. All the elements for your happiness are already here. There is no need to run, strive, search, or struggle. Just be.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
What matters in life is not what happens to you but what you remember and how you remember it.
Gabriel Garcia Marquez
“Don’t let the fear of what could happen make nothing happen.”
Inaction breeds doubt and fear.
Action breeds confidence and courage.
If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.
“There is still vitality under the snow, even though to the casual eye it seems to be dead.”
Agnes Sligh Turnbull
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.”
Pity the nation — oh, pity the people who allow their rights to erode
and their freedoms to be washed away.
I do not want people to be very agreeable, as it saves me the trouble of liking them a great deal.
Only by self-respect will you compel others to respect you.
“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”
“There is no magic cure, no making it all go away forever. There are only small steps upward; an easier day, an unexpected laugh, a mirror that doesn’t matter anymore.”
Laurie Halse Anderson
“A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.”
It is the same with people as it is with riding a bike. Only when moving can one comfortably maintain one’s balance.
There’s nothing so dangerous as sitting still.
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.
John F. Kennedy
“We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb.”
Anne Morrow Lindbergh
What heaven can be more real than to retain the spirit-world of childhood, tempered and balanced by knowledge and common sense.
writer and illustrator
During times of radical change, how do we hold both the magnificence and tragedy of the world?
Geneen Marie Haugen
Art is not what you see, but what you make others see.
“The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak it.”
The greatest peril of misplaced worry is that in keeping us constantly tensed against an imagined catastrophe, it prevents us from fully living.
If your everyday life seems poor, don’t blame it; blame yourself; admit to yourself that you are not enough of a poet to call forth its riches.
Rainer Maria Rilke,
poet and novelist
In the face of an obstacle which is impossible to overcome, stubbornness is stupid.
Simone de Beauvoir
It is not possible to talk about thinking, intelligence, and creativity in any meaningful way without factoring in feelings.
Nothing circulates so rapidly as a secret.
Letitia Elizabeth Landon,
Do we really need much more than this? To honor the dawn. To visit a garden. To talk to a friend. To contemplate a cloud. To cherish a meal. To bow our heads before the mystery of the day. Are these not enough?
We are so achievement-oriented that we often surge right by the true value of relating to what’s before us, because we think that accomplishing things will complete us, when it is experiencing life that will.
I refuse to be intimidated by reality anymore. After all, what is reality, anyway? Nothing but a collective hunch.
writer, director and producer
Growth is an erratic forward movement: two steps forward, one step back. Remember that and be very gentle with yourself.
writer and artist
All aging is successful because otherwise you are dead. Living needs aging. There is no best or right way to age. Each of us will make different accommodations and find different meanings.
“Sometimes what you’re most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.”
“Calm your mind. Life becomes much easier when you keep your mind at peace.”
1. Do not dominate, but guide and inspire – loyalty, trust and co-creation can only truly come from a true ‘yes’ from the other. The key is to inspire the other to want to be their best selves, and to enjoy what you are inviting them into.
2. Remove fear and obligation from your lexicon – neither lead with it, nor be lead by it. Dignity for all parties is the only way to live.
3. Improvise rather than choreograph – think about your time with the other as a blank canvas on which you will both paint. Rather than plow ahead with your plans and agenda, be acutely present to the influences of the other, and co-create.
4. Connection is more valuable than obedience.
5. Take the time needed to build trust – the link between you and the other is fragile. It is built link by link, moment by moment. And creating trust takes time, slowness, and presence.
6. Do not let your dreams and ambitions eclipse your happiness in the moment. The only way to achieve your dreams and ambitions is to see the beauty in the reality of what you have in this moment.
7. Stop being a leader (or partner, wife, mother, father, husband, etc) – your concepts and ideas of what it means to be these things gets in the way of just truly being with others in the moment. It adds stress and tension, and trust is not built with stress and tension.
8. Sometimes let the other ‘win’ – when you listen to and honor the edges and comfort level of the other, you are actually winning too… you are winning their trust and confidence.
9. If the other disconnects, keep your connection with them alive anyway – resist the temptation to disconnect or ‘treat the other as they treat you’ when they disconnect. Someone has to rekindle the connection, and it may as well be you.
10. A task ‘well done’ by you or the other with tension or resentment is not a task well done. Re-assess tasks and accomplishments by how much ease, joy, freedom and happiness are within them.
11. Assist the other to be their best self, that is…more confident, self-contained and beautifully expressive.
12. Ninety-five percent of leadership and loving is your inner state, 5% is what you do or say –the other attunes to what we feel inside, the energy we contain. It doesn’t matter if you use the right tool, or do the ‘right’ thing, if your energy is unclear, or ambiguous or distorted, it will not work.
13. Be masterful with your inner state – be clear and precise with your internal state. Be deliberate about how that inner state is applied to the other. Don’t be sloppy.
14. Start with a mental picture – what ever you want to achieve, start with a clear mental picture. Your body, thoughts, and energy will follow and line up. And you will create from there.
15. It’s not necessary to ‘end on a good note’ – this adds more pressure and tension. The best ‘note’ is in listening to the other, and letting things stop there. The fact that you listened builds trust.
16. Boundaries are essential – your message to the other is always: ‘be free, be happy, we can be together in that, but there are rules to such engagement and one of them is you cannot harm me in your freedom’.
17. Celebrate small successes more often – everyone loves to know they were successful at something. Have an eye for all the small successes and recognize them warmly.
18. Listen to what the other needs – so when you encounter another, your first question to ask yourself is, ‘what do they need?’. When this is your first question, then your engagement with them is caring and safe. This liberates creativity.
19. Be humble and gracious – this is true empowerment. It doesn’t matter if you are speaking to an important world dignitary, or a homeless person on the street. Everyone deserves the highest regard.
20. Don’t be the best – just be the best human you can be. Sincerity of heart outweighs skill.
21. Forget about work / life differentiation – be a good human in all endeavors, your truest self, your most present self. Why would you be different in your work than in the rest of your life?
The essential joy of being with horses is that is brings us into contact with the elements of grace, beauty, spirit, and fire.
Sharon Ralls Lemon
May we be closer to our kindest humanity this season. May we listen more, speak less, inspire more and control less. May we be joyful. May we evoke joy in others.