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Quotes July 31, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

Ellen Bard:

Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Mind

1. Start a compliments file. Document the great things people say about you to read later.

2. Scratch off a lurker on your to-do list, something that’s been there for ages and you’ll never do.

3. Change up the way you make decisions. Decide something with your heart if you usually use your head. Or if you tend to go with your heart, decide with your head.

4. Go cloud-watching. Lie on your back, relax, and watch the sky.

5. Take another route to work. Mixing up your routine in small ways creates new neural pathways in the brain to keep it healthy.

6. Pay complete attention to something you usually do on autopilot, perhaps brushing your teeth, driving, eating, or performing your morning routine.

7. Goof around for a bit. Schedule in five minutes of “play” (non-directed activity) several times throughout your day.

8. Create a deliberate habit, and routinize something small in your life by doing it in the same way each day—what you wear on Tuesdays, or picking up the dental floss before you brush.

9. Fix a small annoyance at home that’s been nagging you—a button lost, a drawer that’s stuck, a light bulb that’s gone.

10. Punctuate your day with a mini-meditation with one minute of awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations; one minute of focused attention on breathing; and one minute of awareness of the body as a whole.

11. Be selfish. Do one thing today just because it makes you happy.

12. Do a mini-declutter. Recycle three things from your wardrobe that you don’t love or regularly wear.

13. Unplug for an hour. Switch everything to airplane mode and free yourself from the constant bings of social media and email.

14. Get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just talking to a stranger at the bus stop.

15. Edit your social media feeds, and take out any negative people. You can just “mute” them; you don’t have to delete them.

Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Body

1. Give your body ten minutes of mindful attention. Use the body scan technique to check in with each part of your body.

2. Oxygenate by taking three deep breaths. Breathe into your abdomen, and let the air puff out your stomach and chest.

3. Get down and boogie. Put on your favorite upbeat record and shake your booty.

4. Stretch out the kinks. If you’re at work, you can always head to the bathroom to avoid strange looks.

5. Run (or walk, depending on your current physical health) for a few minutes. Or go up and down the stairs three times.

6. Narrow your food choices. Pick two healthy breakfasts, lunches, and dinners and rotate for the week.

7. Activate your self-soothing system. Stroke your own arm, or if that feels too weird, moisturize.

8. Get to know yourself intimately. Look lovingly and without judgment at yourself naked. (Use a mirror to make sure you get to know all of you!)

9. Make one small change to your diet for the week. Drink an extra glass of water each day, or have an extra portion of veggies each meal.

10. Give your body a treat. Pick something from your wardrobe that feels great next to your skin.

11. Be still. Sit somewhere green, and be quiet for a few minutes.

12. Get fifteen minutes of sun, especially if you’re in a cold climate. (Use sunscreen if appropriate.)

13. Inhale an upbeat smell. Try peppermint to suppress food cravings and boost mood and motivation.

14. Have a good laugh. Read a couple of comic strips that you enjoy. (For inspiration, try Calvin and Hobbes, Dilbert, or xkcd.)

15. Take a quick nap. Ten to twenty minutes can reduce your sleep debt and leave you ready for action.

Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Soul

1. Imagine you’re your best friend. If you were, what would you tell yourself right now? Look in the mirror and say it.

2. Use your commute for a “Beauty Scavenger Hunt.” Find five unexpected beautiful things on your way to work.

3. Help someone. Carry a bag, open a door, or pick up an extra carton of milk for a neighbor.

4. Check in with your emotions. Sit quietly and just name without judgment what you’re feeling.

5. Write out your thoughts. Go for fifteen minutes on anything bothering you. Then let it go as you burn or bin the paper.

6. Choose who you spend your time with today. Hang out with “Radiators” who emit enthusiasm and positivity, and not “Drains” whose pessimism and negativity robs energy.

7. Stroke a pet. If you don’t have one, go to the park and find one. (Ask first!)

8. Get positive feedback. Ask three good friends to tell you what they love about you.

9. Make a small connection. Have a few sentences of conversation with someone in customer service such as a sales assistant or barista.

10. Splurge a little. Buy a small luxury as a way of valuing yourself.

11. Have a self-date. Spend an hour alone doing something that nourishes you (reading, your hobby, visiting a museum or gallery, etc.)

12. Exercise a signature strength. Think about what you’re good at, and find an opportunity for it today.

13. Take a home spa. Have a long bath or shower, sit around in your bathrobe, and read magazines.

14. Ask for help—big or small, but reach out.

15. Plan a two-day holiday for next weekend. Turn off your phone, tell people you’ll be away, and then do something new in your own town.

Quotes July 19, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Of all things, it would seem, make friends with depersonalization. Enemies within consciousness never work, and only escalate the problem. Befriend it, consider it part of life to work with it. We can’t expel it or cancel it. When we try, the pressure makes a volcano out of it. This is true of so many things, it must be true of DDD too.”
David Hench
“Sensitive people feel so deeply they often have to retreat from the world, in order to dig beneath the layers of pain to find their faith and courage.”
Shannon L. Alder
“Let us prepare our minds as if we’d come to the very end of life. Let us postpone nothing. Let us balance life’s books each day. The one who puts the finishing touches on their life each day is never short of time.”
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
Joseph Campbell
“Yes, love is all about sacrifice and compromise, but it’s important also to establish a limit. You shouldn’t have to throw your whole life away to make a relationship work. If you have to lose yourself to please your partner, you’re with the wrong person.”
Beau Taplin
“When I got sober, I thought giving up was saying goodbye to all the fun and all the sparkle, and it turned out to be just the opposite. That’s when the sparkle started for me.”
Mary Karr
“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”
James Allen
“If you love yourself it doesn’t matter if other people don’t like you because you don’t need their approval to feel good about yourself.”
Lori Deschene

Quotes July 06, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Winning the war of words inside your soul means learning to defy your inner critic.”
Steven Furtick
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
“Happiness can only be found if you free yourself from all other distractions.”
Saul Bellow
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
Oscar Wilde
“Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the centre of meaningful human experiences”
Brené Brown
“Sometimes you simply have to accept that you can’t accomplish as much as you’d like to. If you’re sick, tired, or hurting emotionally, you just have to do what you reasonably you can and then give yourself whatever you need to feel better. You may feel like you’re falling behind, but you’re not failing. You’re doing what you need to do to take good care of yourself, and that’s the most important thing you can do when you’re struggling.”
Lori Deschene
“If you’re giving your all but it takes all you have just to get through the day, it doesn’t mean your best isn’t good enough. It means life is just that hard right now. Be good to yourself. You need it.”
Lori Deschene
“Most of us expect far too much from ourselves and never give ourselves credit for all the things we’re doing right. You’re trying your best, facing challenges that would likely overwhelm anyone, and learning and growing every day. And you’re doing it while feeling a range of messy, confusing emotions and healing from pains large and small from the past. Stop and give yourself a little credit. You’re stronger than you know, and you’re doing better than you think.”
Lori Deschene
“And some days life is just hard. And some days are just rough. And some days you just gotta cry before you move forward. And all of that is okay.”

Quotes June 27, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

Our Basic Goodness
The gold of our true nature can never be tarnished. No matter how it might get covered over or disguised by feelings of anger, deficiency, or fear, our awareness remains radiant and pure. In the moments of remembering and trusting this basic goodness of our Being, the grip of “something’s wrong” dissolves and we open to happiness, peace, and freedom.
Tara Brach
“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.”
Jim Morrison
“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.”
Eckhart Tolle
“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.”
Paulo Coelho
“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.”
Steve Maraboli
“The best possible thing you can get out of a relationship is that you’re with someone who encourages you to be the best version of yourself every day.”
Nishan Panwar
“Never feel sorry for choosing yourself.”

Quotes June 14, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“I hope you find love, but more importantly, I hope you’re strong enough to walk away from what love isn’t.”
Tiffany Tomiko
“Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally.”
Kamand Kojouri
“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.”
Brené Brown
“Stop shoulding on yourself.”
Albert Ellis
“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
Pablo Picasso
“You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.”
James Clear
“Your inner critic is simply a part of you that needs more self-love.”
Amy Leigh Mercee
“We only live once, Snoopy.”
Charlie Brown
“Wrong. We only die once. We live every day.”
“You don’t have to rebuild a relationship with everyone you’ve forgiven.”
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”

Quotes May 27, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted—it is an intimate date with yourself.”
Paul TP Wong
“Do not let the roles you play in life make you forget who you are.”
Roy T. Bennett
“No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow.”
Alice Walker
“I’d go back to my younger self and, ‘Lighten up. Take it easy. Relax. Don’t be so anxious about everything. Try not to have today stolen from you by anxiety about yesterday or tomorrow.’”
Bill Nighy
“Each of us has an inner compass. This is an instinct that points us toward health. It warns us when we are on dangerous ground, and it tells us when something is safe and good for us.”
Julia Cameron
“I decided that the single most subversive, revolutionary thing I could do was to show up for my life and not be ashamed.”
Anne Lamott
“We eventually learn that emotional closure is our own action.”
David Deida
“Our intention creates our reality.”
Wayne Dyer
“Tears of despair can be fuel. Thunders of anger can be light.”
Maxime Lagacé
“Making a big life change is scary, but you know what’s even scarier? Regret.”
Zig Ziglar
“And here you are, living despite it all.”
Rupi Kaur
“The more we love the more we lose. The more we lose the more we learn. The more we learn the more we love. It comes full circle. Life is the school; love is the lesson. We cannot lose.”
Kate McGahan
“I can’t say when you’ll get love or how you’ll find it or even promise that you will. I can only say you are worthy of it and that it’s never too much to ask for it and that it’s not crazy to fear you’ll never have it again, even though your fears are probably wrong. Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning. It’s the best thing we have to give and the most valuable thing we receive. It’s worthy of all the hullabaloo.”
Cheryl Strayed
“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.”
Louise Hay
“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes when you take nothing personally.”
Don Miguel Ruiz
“Don’t force yourself to fit where you don’t belong.”
“Don’t try to understand everything, because sometimes it’s not meant to be understood, but accepted.”

Quotes April 29, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“People will teach you how to love by not loving you back. People will teach you how to forgive by not apologizing. People will teach you kindness by their judgment. People will teach you how to grow by remaining stagnant. Pay attention when you’re going through pain and mysterious times. Listen to the wisdom life is trying to teach you.”
Meredith Marple
“Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.”
Oscar Wilde
“Trust yourself. You’ve survived a lot, and you’ll survive whatever is coming.”
Robert Tew
“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.”
Pema Chödrön
“When you’re comfortable in your skin, you look beautiful, regardless of any flaws.”
Emily Deschanel
“The feeling of being rejected, disapproved of, or conditionally loved by one’s primary caregivers is a monumental, long-lasting burden for a child to carry. It produces chronic shame, guilt, and anxiety. The child is blamed for doing something wrong and in doing so learns to perceive themselves as being bad.”
Darius Cikanavicius, Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults
“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles, and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?”
Lao Tzu
“Kindness can be its own motive. We are made kind by being kind.”
Eric Hoffer
“True forgiveness comes when you realize there is something totally radiant inside you, that nobody could ever touch”
Eckhart Tolle
“Sometimes it takes relationships that don’t last forever to teach us lessons that will.”
“Success is a series of small wins.”

Quotes April 12, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you thought you couldn’t.”
Rikki Rogers
“Alas for those that never sing, but die with all their music in them!”
Oliver Wendell Holmes
“You become what you believe, not what you think or what you want.”
Oprah Winfrey
“The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers.”
Deepak Chopra’
“Presence is far more intricate and rewarding an art than productivity. Ours is a culture that measures our worth as human beings by our efficiency, our earnings, our ability to perform this or that. The cult of productivity has its place, but worshipping at its altar daily robs us of the very capacity for joy and wonder that makes life worth living.”
Maria Popova
“How you do one thing is how you do everything.”
“Just a reminder in case your mind is playing tricks on you today: You matter. You’re important. You’re loved. Your presence on this earth makes a difference where you see it or not.”
“Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of these things and still be calm in your heart.”
“Being attracted to someone’s way of thinking is a whole different level of attraction.”
“Remember, being happy doesn’t mean you have it all. It simply means you’re thankful for all you have.”

Quotes March 28, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“Sometimes we self-sabotage just when things seem to be going smoothly. Perhaps this is a way to express our fear about whether it is okay for us to have a better life.”
Maureen Brady
“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
Oprah Winfrey
“I’ve met people who are embattled and dismissive, but when you get to know them, you find that they’re vulnerable—that hauteur or standoffishness is because they’re pedaling furiously underneath.”
Matthew Macfadyen
“You will survive, and you will find purpose in the chaos. Moving on doesn’t mean letting go.”
Mary VanHaute
“What, then, is the right way of living? Life must be lived as play…”
“Some people are going to reject you simply because you shine too bright for them. That’s okay. Keep shining.”
Mandy Hale
“The truth is, you’re never going to be able to please everybody, so stop trying. Remember, the sun is going to continue shining even if some people get annoyed by its light shining in their eyes. You have full permission to shine on.”

Quotes March 15, 2021

Quotes courtesy of Lori Deschene/Tiny Buddha

“All appears to change when we change.”
Henri-Frédéric Amiel
“You are allowed to take up space. Own who you are and what you want for yourself. Stop downplaying the things you care about, the hopes you have.”
Bianca Sparacino
“Only recently have I realized that being different is not something you want to hide or squelch or suppress.”
Amy Gerstler
“The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear.”
“Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive.”
Jamais Cascio
“The answer to the pain of grief is not how to get yourself out of it, but how to support yourself inside it.”
“Today I want you to think about all that you are instead of all that you are not.”